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I applaud you for making the effort in searching for the truth. It takes a great amount of courage and energy to say 'enough is enough' and go against your usual behaviour. Therefore I won't keep you any longer! My articles are 100% ad free and are a collection of my inner most realisations about love, relationships, life and happiness, put together for you to make sense of your own journey.

ARE YOU NICE?

'Nice' because you want to be liked, OR because it reflects who you truly are and how you deep down feel about yourself? Nice because you...

Michaela Patel

Jan 4, 20173 min read

ATTRACTION vs. TRUE LOVE 2

As adults, the fastest way to feel ACCEPTED is through sleeping with another. Physical touch, skin to skin contact, reminds us of the...

Michaela Patel

Dec 28, 20162 min read

ATTRACTION vs. TRUE LOVE 1

Attraction, seemingly powered by love, is frequently fuelled by our INSECURITIES... To truly love others you do not need to be attracted...

Michaela Patel

Dec 25, 20162 min read

LOVEABILITY AND WORTH

We often judge, compare and criticise. To make ourselves feel better we put others down. What we don't realise is that we experience...

Michaela Patel

Dec 18, 20162 min read

MANIPULATION AND RELATIONSHIPS 2

When you have no desire, nor need, to justify your dos and don'ts to anyone but YOU, you have established a solid relationship with...

Michaela Patel

Dec 11, 20163 min read

MANIPULATION AND RELATIONSHIPS 1

Manipulation is the black magic of relationships. How far are we willing to go in using it determines who tricks who... Some...

Michaela Patel

Dec 11, 20163 min read

TO THE INSECURE YOU

So you like to FIX, change your partner to finally get from him/her what you didn't get as a child - the love, attention and care?...

Michaela Patel

Dec 7, 20162 min read

CHASING ACCEPTANCE?

Number one HIDDEN INTENTION driving our behaviour is to feel accepted. Remember those first achievements and failures at school? Remember...

Michaela Patel

Nov 30, 20162 min read

DEPTH OF CONNECTION - THE COMMUNICATION

What kind of space opens up for you when you come to communicate your wants and needs to your partner? Expressing ourselves isn't always...

Michaela Patel

Nov 23, 20163 min read

DEPTH OF CONNECTION - THE RESPONSIBILITY

Relationships work as long as both partners want the same. When we are on the same page we feel we can take on the whole world together,...

Michaela Patel

Nov 15, 20163 min read

PAINFUL EMOTIONS?

We are rarely taught about our emotions at home. Oftentimes we are unable to even name what we feel due to emotional repression our...

Michaela Patel

Nov 9, 20164 min read

UNDERNEATH THE MASK OF LOVE

Are you looking to find true love? Do you know that the one thing keeping you from experiencing true love is fear? Lets look at a little...

Michaela Patel

Nov 2, 20164 min read

EXPERIENCING CHILDHOOD NEGLECT AND ITS REPERCUSSIONS ON ADULT RELATIONSHIPS

Could your actions be subconsciously driven by your unfulfilled childhood needs? What are your needs and are they healthy? Our basic...

Michaela Patel

Oct 12, 20164 min read

THE MYTH OF FORGIVENESS

Forgiveness is an act of LOVE, as much as holding onto resentment is an act of FEAR. So let me explain... When we forgive, we say 'I...

Michaela Patel

Sep 20, 20162 min read

FEAR OR LOVE?

ALL our intentions are driven by these two opposing forces - by darkness, or by light. Saying 'yes' or 'no' to things is driven by us...

Michaela Patel

Sep 17, 20163 min read

HEALING YOU 2

I'd like you to realise how you may have been affected by inadequate upbringing, by demonstrating how the pattern of my own false beliefs...

Michaela Patel

Sep 6, 20164 min read

HEALING YOU 1

There is a conscious AND subconscious STORY we hold about the circumstances which led to us believing in our inadequacy. And they are...

Michaela Patel

Sep 6, 20162 min read

RELATIONSHIP BUBBLE

All we strive for, since a very young age, is to be in a relationship. We are driven by what relationship REPRESENTS, rarely questioning...

Michaela Patel

Aug 11, 20163 min read

I NEED YOU...

Dear Soulmate, I need to find YOU... because I lost ME. I NEED you to love me❤️... because I feel unloveable 💔 I NEED you to hear how...

Michaela Patel

Jul 26, 20163 min read

LOVE AND ATTENTION

Do you think that being attentive equals being LOVING? Most of us assume so. Some of us build our relationships on this assumption with...

Michaela Patel

Jul 16, 20164 min read