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  • Michaela Patel


Do you repeatedly experience similar situations in life? Where you get involved with similar types of people? Where you engage in similar activities, or come across similar issues? Repeatedly bringing nothing but pain into your life?

Have you ever wondered WHY?

I believe that any hardship, pain, or problem, is really a lesson in disguise. A lesson to make us understand, to change our ways. To master ourselves.

I look at any complications as a source of learning, source of potential to grow in a certain direction. Although it may not be exactly the direction we have had in mind(!), each time we experience pain, it is a sign that we need to make a CHANGE. That we need to reconsider our direction.

It is like a God's nudge:

'Hey! Stop! Not like this! You have not learned yet, have you?!'

'Ok, HERE WE GO AGAIN until you understand what I am trying to teach you....'

And so we are met with similar life situations. It is like running against a brick wall. We crash, we get hurt, we rise from the ground more determined. But if we haven't learned, we crash again. Each subsequent time our wounds deepen, and the pain gets worse.

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, hey?

Have you heard about Einstein's theory of insanity?

At some point we have to rise and stop this self-defeating behaviour cycle. We have to pause, and evaluate what has been going on so far.

If we don't want to keep crashing we have to take TIME OUT. Like players during a match break - to give ourselves the best chance of seeing where it all went wrong. We have to honestly look at ourselves and question: 'Why do I do this? What am I trying to get from this? What is important for me? Am I willing to kill myself for it? Is it true that if I get through the wall I will be happier?'

Always question. PAUSE AND QUESTION everything you do! Because only when we pause, we give ourselves the chance to honestly reflect....

When we question our motifs, we always end up questioning our beliefs. Core beliefs are the things we are convinced to be TRUE. These 'truths' have been stored in our minds. We have a pretty big collection of them since childhood. Some are easier to uncover to be lies, some are very deeply engrained in our subconscious. Because these thoughts AREN'T conscious, we don't even know we have them. This is why some core beliefs are very tricky to uncover. The only way to get to them is to peel all the layers covering them. Like pealing an onion - every time we question the superficial ones we get closer to the truth.

Unless we start questioning everything we currently believe in, we won't be able to remove our conditioning. It is like a thick SMOKE SCREEN right in front of the wall we crush into every time we try to chase our dreams….

(read more on how to tackle our conditioning in part 2)

Thank you for reading. If my article contributed to understanding yourself, please be generous and share it with others.

Copyright © 2016 Michaela Patel

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