Unhealthy relationship = unhealthy relationship with oneself Drama in a relationship is just a symptom of how unhealthy such relationship really is. The more drama, the more abuse and manipulation, the more abusive we tend to be towards ourselves, internally, and the more we manipulate our reality to fit our beliefs...about how happy we are....
It's a no brainer...
Do you have an abusive partner??
1/Does he treat you like nobody? It's because you feel you are nobody. 2/Does he lie to you and you believe him? It's because you lie to yourself and believe it. 3/Do his actions leave you confused about whether he loves you? It's because you are confused about what love is. Do you feel unloved by him? It is because you don't love yourself. 4/Does he make you unhappy? It is because you are unhappy with yourself.
Because IF YOU DIDN'T, you certainly would:
1/know who you are and what your value is 2/not second guess yourself but rather trust yourself 3/know that you love yourself that much to not let him do things which are unkind and disrespectful towards you 4/understand yourself enough to know what makes you truly happy.
If you do wake up to the fact that something is seriously wrong with your relationship, know that something is seriously wrong with YOU. No matter how right you are about him, nothing will change until you understand yourself. Because until then how you deal with such relationship cannot originate from clarity, from TRUTH. Know that even if you decide to move on, all of that you ARE will move on with you...
P.S.: I am by no means implying to tolerate abusive behaviour from others! Rather this may be your wake up call for you to move in the right direction: towards self-care, self-love and self-respect. Afterall, every day we teach others how they should treat us.
One thing we need to be aware of though: teaching others is not going to be easy if we haven't MASTERED IT OURSELVES....
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