top of page
  • Michaela Patel


Lets face it, we are addicted to drama! It is just about everywhere on daily basis.

Our addiction is a form of dissociation. Form of DISTRACTION.

From what though? Or who??

From ourselves... From what is happening INSIDE us! From our own thoughts and feelings. From our beliefs. About ourselves, first and foremost. Opinion and judgement are our daily companions. The way we think of ourselves. Which we then tend to extend outward, onto others.

We need to have an opinion just about everything. 'Everyone else does, right?!'

Because if we didn't have an opinion we would not be visible. We would not be noticeable....IMPORTANT....worthy....

But don't you feel somehow exhausted by all the drama and the need for visibility? For the importance and acknowledgement? For the validation? For OUR validation?!

What we don't see is that distracting ourselves from our OWN issues by attending to problems of someone else, is like putting a dressing on a shot wound. It covers it briefly before the blood starts to leak out again. And then we need a new one! New dressing, new distraction from the pain of our wound. From our own insignificance, our own UNWORTHINESS. Wound which cuts much deeper, and which hasn't stopped hurting since childhood...

Until... we decide to remove the bullet - the real reason why we are hurting. But that needs a lot more work then just covering it with yet another dressing!

'No, thank you! I will stick to someone else’s drama and keep watching their pain.’

So we are hooked....

Think about it: we grew up seeing drama at our homes as children, we are fed with drama by media daily, we are watching movies in our spare time, we are engulfed listening to drama at work, from our neighbours, we love to listen to drama of our friends….anything and anywhere, as long as it is NOT OUR OWN.

We are so addicted to this way of life that if our days are uneventful, we like to create the buzz ourselves: arguing with a stranger whilst shopping, attacking a colleague at a work do, rowing with our partner whilst on holiday....or just in our own head by constant worrying about potential and non-existent events.

But why? It seems like we cannot lead a simple, uneventful, PEACEFUL life?

The truth is, we don’t know how….

Thank you for reading. If my article contributed to understanding yourself, please be generous and share it with others.

Copyright © 2016 Michaela Patel

bottom of page